I’ve been thinking I wouldn’t mind an entire tumblr wedding. Like sending out my invitations via here. Having my bridesmaids be from here. You guys and girls are a lot closer to me than most of my family. I just got to have an actual wedding with a budget and start planning.

That means I have to actually graduate college. No more skipping class! No mas.

Yes I am still getting married. I know I haven’t mentioned it in a while but that is only because my fiance says that he wants me to graduate and get a better job since both his family and my family can’t pay for the wedding and might be able to help but not a lot.

• The Theme - Cherry Blossom
• The Color Scheme - Pink and White
• We want to do a ceremony in my church and have a reception else where.
• I know which dresses I want to try on.
• I have a general idea of what I want for the wedding party to look like.

There is still a lot to figure out such as budget, catering, flowers, locations, and much more but I am sure that once I graduate college and find a more stable job that pays more my fiance and I will sit down and plan everything.

I love you all I just wanted to be honest with you :-)

My dad wants me to get a bachelors degree before I get married to my fiance, who he now claims is not my fiance because he never told him yes and it doesn’t count because he never asked my mother…UGH I really don’t feel like I’m having a wedding just going to go to the courthouse and get hitched because the way my is it will never happen.

• weddings are so expensive and they take lots of planning. My fiance is lazy and is very economic.
• weddings are about my family and friends being there and celebrating, and I have lots of family that I can’t stand and not a lot of people that I can call friends.
• weddings have white dresses and I love white dresses.
• I have to get a bachelors degree to get married, now I have a timeline.
• If you get married you have sex and have a baby and that will impair my ability to finish school.
• If I get married all my fights will be about money because I don’t care about how I spend it and my fiance cares about money.

Do you see the stupid reasons my family gives! Honestly, courthouse I’m getting married. No more cherry blossom wedding for me.

Asked my father about his thoughts on marriage, he said I should keep looking around. Basically, the same guy that gave my fiance permission and his blessing to marry me is telling me I should continue to date.

Thanks dad.

aradiosonggirl:

This article sums up pretty perfectly how I feel about weddings. I’ve never understood my culture’s need to throw the biggest, most showy parties, and I think I would die with all that attention placed on me.

I’ve come to realize these three basic facts:

1. My parents will not come to my wedding if I move out before I am married.
2. My fiance’s family wants him and me to elope.
3. I might not never get the wedding I always hoped for and dreamed of.

Numbers 1 and 3 make me so sad. I always envisioned a white wedding for me with a beautiful dress and my husband there. But at the rate I am going at, it looks like my fiance and I are going to have to consider number 2. My family is just so against everything and they don’t realize how much they hurt me. Sometimes dreams are for children and they should be left in childhood. No white wedding, no wedding dress, just a courthouse or Elvis doing my wedding.

It hurt to hear someone tell me that an engagement ring was “symbolic of your relationship – you want it to last.”

Not everyone has that liberty to buy an amazing ring. For me the thought has always counted. When my fiance proposed to me, he asked me to be his wife, not the ring display at Macy’s.

Please don’t tell me I can’t have my best friend be my maid of honor because she is fat and that we can’t have too many fat people at the wedding.

Watching four weddings and wishing all my followers can come to my wedding.

Plus it would be so nice for some of my engaged followers to talk with me about their weddings. Weddings are so lovely and pretty and different.